One of the coolest emails we've received this week is from rebellious bride-to-be Aileen. Here are some snippets from her email:
I think that doing this (Kai's note: Aileen is referring to our blog), is a really great way to finally set a trend where bride and groom to be(s) show who they are, no matter what the world says. After all, this is the age where individuality and uniqueness has become a necessity. I am sending this because I share the sentiment and tililing :p
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Armie Aileen, Dennis.== a.k.a== Wabu |
I am a bride to be, December 2012. I define myself as a rebellious bride too as I do not wish to conform to the norms of wedding these days.
Our engagement happened like any business day in the office. Decided on a date and church, made the call, deposited the amount for downpayment and... Yahoo! Ikakasal na kami. That was the initial step we took for this journey I call, “Stress now sa suppliers and eklavu, Smile sa Camera sa araw ng Kasal”.
My Theme: Still Tentative. I have been a fan of Lady Diana, Sex and the City....
In honor of this very first Rebellious Letter that Mica and I received, we are giving her our personal messages and our very own suggestions for one of the themes that she is considering.
OUR MESSAGE TO AILEEN:
Aileen!
You are one true rebel bride! We also look forward to hear more about your wedding plans and to feature your wedding :) Let me know what you come up with and if you have any questions, don't hesitate to ask! Congratulations to you and Dennis and may bride to be(s) like you be many! Atapang ababae! Apir! -- MICA
Dear Aileen,
Here's what I can advice to you, from one rebellious bride with "martial law-ish" parents to another: STICK TO YOUR GUNS AND PRETEND TO BE DEAF. EXTRA Guests of the parents, should be PAID FOR, BY THE PARENTS. Agree to it, ONLY if they contribute in paying for any extra surcharges you might incur. If they don't, then tell them, that you are on a tight budget so you simply cannot accommodate. If you don't hear the end of it, then again, PRETEND TO BE DEAF. -- Kai :)
SEX AND THE CITY WEDDING
Aileen is still in the early stages of conceptualizing and finalizing her theme. She is torn between a royal theme or a Sex and the City theme, plus incorporating plush toys as decors somewhere in the mix. While all these ideas are totally awesome, we will focus our attention to just one theme only (at least for our suggestions to the bride), which we'd like to call: Totally Sex and the City. And although this theme is girly and might come across as expensive and flashy, here are some ideas that can be executed without breaking the bank and ideas that can balance out the girlyness of the theme. So here goes!
THE FASHION
The Bride
For the Bride, there's nothing more Sex and the City than channeling Carrie Bradshaw -- wear an over-the-top bridal gown, and instead of a bouquet, create a fashion statement like that of the peacock head piece she wore in the movie (it doesn't have to be the same exact head piece so long as it's a fashion statement), of course a Carrie Bradshaw look is never without a pair of fabulous shoes so whether you want to splurge on a pair of Manolos or you want to go local with equally fabulous brands like Janylyn, it doesn't really matter as long as you can rock the "Carrie look". And finally, finish your ensemble with a nostalgic necklace that spells out either your name or your fiance's name.
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Re-create the girls' outfits with H&M dresses instead! |
Aileen emailed us something about not wanting to have a central color motif--which is perfect for a Sex and the City theme because this show is all about individual style as seen in the four girls.
Have the entourage wear the colors that represent "Miranda, Samantha, and Charlotte" -- you don't even have to have gowns made! Just buy awesome outfits from the likes of H&M and you are good to go! Miranda, Samantha, and Charlotte are also not the type who would carry a bouquet (maybe Charlotte but Samantha and Miranda might give you a dirty look) -- instead of bouquets, have your girls wear a flower head piece or a flower brooch -- this symbolizes the over sized flower accessory that Carrie popularized!
The Groom and the Ceremony
Channel all things Sex and the City from the bridal car to the flower girl. Of course the groom has to be in a sleek suit, worthy of Mr. Big's closet. The bridal car, if you are rebellious enough, can be a yellow cab (after all, an SATC episode is never complete w/o a cameo of this New York icon!), and the flower girls can be in tutus, reminiscent of Carrie's opening credits look!
The Second Outfits
A Sex and the City wedding is NOT a SATC wedding if there won't be enough fashion moments to go around! So "change-outfits" not just for the bride but also for the entire entourage is in order! Aileen made mention also of changing into a second look for her reception --and what better way to do this, than with one of Carrie's statement looks! The rest of the entourage can channel the girls too! Girly, Hamptons-worthy feminine looks for Charlotte girls, 80s sexy looks for Samantha girls, and Fun and bold looks for Miranda girls!
THE NOT-SO-GIRLY ELEMENTS
Of course, let's not forget that the Groom needs to assert his "manhood" because after all, this is also HIS wedding. So for the reception details, opt for the New York feel which is also very much part of the Sex and the City show. Cigarettes, hot dogs, and pizza are just some of the items that can be cleverly incorporated in the decors.
Now if you really MUST have something girly, add Carrie's favorite drink in the mix, yellow cab inspired cupcakes, and cheesecakes!
ALL THINGS SEX AND THE CITY
When you choose a theme, STICK to it from top to bottom. Instead of the usual guest book, leave a macbook at the reception table, and ask guests to complete the sentence: "I can't help but wonder..." And instead of the usual photo booth backdrop, have an artistic friend create a layout reminiscent of New York City.
Last but not the least, for your table decors, make it simple but "controversial" by putting famous quotes from the show--even Samantha's scandalous lines! Add a quirky touch with mini yellow cab place holders.
Aileen - if you are reading this, thank you for taking the time to email us. We hope that our tips were useful, good luck to your rebellious plans, and don't hesitate to send us a message again.
Got more tips for Aileen? Comment away!
XOXO,
Kai :)